Why doesn’t anyone date anymore?

It’s Friday night. Do you know where your single friends are? If they are anything like me and my single girlfriends, we probably met up for happy hour, took down a few glasses of wine and some pizza, caught up on the latest gossip, then each returned home for some solo Netflix and chill. Friday Night Lights anyone?

It’s not very often when someone can’t commit to one of these nights because “they have a date”, which got me to thinking …

Why doesn’t anyone date anymore?

Like countless other women, Sex and the City is one of my all time favorite tv series. I love watching (repeatedly) Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte date their way through NYC in their 30’s and the entertaining stories that follow. But, similar to most things in Hollywood, that’s not real life.

My group of girlfriends encompasses most of the love life spectrum: single, married, divorced, divorced and remarried, single parent and zero interest in marriage. For purposes of this blog, I’m going to put a spotlight on my fellow single girlfriends.

Out of the group of women I talk to/text with fairly often, I counted 10 single girlfriends (11 including myself) and can only remember 2 of them going on a date in the last few months. Seriously! Kind of crazy when you think about it.

I can’t speak for all of them, but I can speak for myself and some of the others. We go out to dinners, have drinks, go to baseball and football games, travel, go the the gym, attend church (some of us) .. we live pretty active social lives. Dating just doesn’t seem to be a part of that list. And believe me, it’s not for a lack of interest. For what it’s worth, these are really great women with educations, careers and though I may be slightly biased, a lot to offer someone.

But in a world of swipe right if you like me, left to send me to the pit of rejection (dilly, dilly), dating seems to have fallen off the map. Ironically, those 2 aforementioned dates were via dating sites, which I am too prideful for (that’s an entirely different blog).

Even worse, people get so easily swallowed up in the shallowness of these perfected lives and relationships on social media (ie: “relationship goals”, “instagram models”) instead of putting down the phone and finding someone to spend our REAL life with.

Will a generation of men ever go back to picking a woman up at her house, opening her car door and taking her on a real date? Not every date, sometimes casual meet ups are perfect, but you get my point. And before you roll your eyes, yes, I’m all about women’s empowerment, but damn it, it would be nice to be taken on a good old fashioned date every once in awhile.

Until then, I will continue to love my nights with the girls and the stories that come with single life (those will never get old). Maybe dating is like fashion; what once was popular will come back around again. But for now, the question remains …

Why doesn’t anyone date anymore?

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